Ghosting is Bad Enough, but Haunting?!
I think it’s safe to say that pretty much everybody has been ghosted at least once. You never forget the first time, right? I really wish it was different. So, if you’ve been unlucky enough to be ghosted several times, chances are you were or can be subject to haunting too.
How can you know it? And what to do about it? We explain!
Haunting refers to an instance where someone who ghosted you “comes back to life” and starts interacting with your posts on social media all of a sudden. They like your Facebook and Instagram posts, retweets you, favorites your photos on Instagram, but don’t start a conversation directly.
Why do people “haunt”?
I’ve never been haunted myself and hadn’t had the opportunity to confront a haunter yet, so here are my suspicions:
- They want to get things between you and them started again, but are too coward to apologize to you directly for ghosting you in the first place.
- You’ve been benched. They saw some potential in you, but didn’t feel the spark, so you became their second option and they started dating around, looking for someone better… but they couldn’t find anyone, so they are back… to haunt you.
What to do about haunting?
Either way, I don’t think it would be a good idea to just wait for this person with open arms. After all, they’ve been cruel enough to ghost you, remember? They could do it again!
For this reason, I suggest two ways of dealing with haunting: either blocking or unfriending this person in all social media or confronting them. It could well be that they had a valid reason or can offer a sincere apology for what they’ve done to you. Only in the latter case I would give them a second chance.
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