Low self-esteem is the first cause of unhealthy relationships and the main cause of break-ups. If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never believe that someone else could love you and you will constantly end up in relationships with people who don’t really love you, thus confirming your belief that you are unworthy of love. But how do self-confident people escape this pattern?
Low self-esteem is what traps us in bad relationships, sabotaging new relationships and making us feel so devastated and broken when they end.
Everyone’s path to self-confidence is different, but having a picture of what self-esteem looks like and how it can manifest itself in relationships is a helpful way for us to understand what you might need to work on. That is why today we want to show you 5 behaviors that most self-confident people in a relationship have in common.
Sometimes two people are simply incompatible. That doesn’t make either of them imperfect or wrong. Self-confident people don’t take it personally if a guy doesn’t want a relationship with them. They realize he’s not the right one and they move on.
When a person is insecure and the relationship ends, they analyze and re-examine every dialogue in an attempt to find out what they have done wrong. She thus clings to the destructive belief that she is the problem and that the guys she wants will never want to have a relationship with her.
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Confident people take responsibility for their actions and emotions. They do not blame their partners if they feel unhappy, nor do they consider themselves victims of other people and circumstances. They do not blame their exes for wasting their time and use mistakes as opportunities to grow and improve.
If there are problems in the relationship, they take responsibility by apologizing or trying to solve them, without waiting for them to magically disappear.
Setting limits in a relationship means that you prioritize your needs and emotions.
Self-confident people act according to their values and do not set them aside to please another person. They do not accept disrespectful treatment. In addition, they will continue to keep their lives outside of the relationship without giving up friends, hobbies or time for themselves.
Confident people don’t need to tell the world how good they are. Only insecure people secretly feel that they are unworthy and feel the need to hide it by bragging about their achievements.
A person who gradually reveals themselves is much more attractive than one who immediately shows off like a peacock.
People with high self-esteem do not constantly question their actions or feel conflicted about what is right to do or say. People with low self-esteem, on the other hand, do not trust their judgment and are afraid of making mistakes. As a result, they seek the approval of others. This obviously does not help their sense of autonomy, which is also a key element of healthy self-esteem.
I hope that after reading this article, you have understood why self-esteem is so important for the success of a relationship and if there is some point you need to work on.
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