Infidelity is one of the greatest causes of couples and marriages breaking up. When someone cheats in an exclusive love bond, trust is betrayed, hurting their partner. But why do people cheat? Are men and women unfaithful for different reasons?
Many of the reasons are not determined by someone’s gender identity. Many of the explanations are valid for both sexes. And, depending on the type of relationship, there are different degrees of infidelity. The definition of this term even varies depending on the culture!
Generally speaking, the common reasons for infidelity are the following:
In short, there are many reasons and they tend to be connected to a very complex, personal struggle. However, there are certain reasons that are more common to one sex than the other.
According to studies, the reason why men cheat tends to be closely related with their sex lives. Psychologists say that, while women need to feel loved in order to become aroused, men need sex in order to feel loved. In other words, it has more to do with their physical needs and what they mean to them.
In the case of women, however, the main cause is not feeling appreciated or loved by their partner. Another reason is feeling unattractive, which leads them to look for someone else to contradict these feelings. Basically, they look for appreciation for their appearance from the outside to strengthen their low self-esteem.
Of course, in many cases, infidelity is not about love being over forever, but rather about something that is missing in the relationship. Communication between the couple is therefore fundamental. That is the only way to meet needs and fulfill desires in a healthy way.
Most of the time, the person who is betrayed realizes this situation on their own. It is less common for the cheater to confess their doings since most of them want to keep everything secret.
The most common signs that you might be being cheated on are the following:
Infidelity can be a devastating experience for the person who is betrayed, even though the intention of the person who is cheating has never been to hurt their partner. The emotions that can arise from this are many: anger, rage, self-esteem problems, distress and depression. According to psychologists, even emotions comparable to post-traumatic stress can be experienced.
The truth is that there is no recipe for the right way to proceed in a relationship after being cheated on. This is a personal decision whether to work on the relationship and continue or simply end it. But, if you’ve been through this experience and don’t know how to move on, it may be good to seek help from someone who can give you another point of view.
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